er.... feeling sorry（同情） is a very useless thing to do... what you must do is help that someone... like watching news..some ppl say watching news is good, let you know more, when you see ppl got burnt or killed..you say "oh...so poor"....then what do you do?just go and sleep and do nothing...? yes...no one can change anyone, but we can help by caring for them, let them know that there's someone for them... just like what buddha did, he didnt use his super powers or promise that you'll not suffer if you believe in him... instead, he showed us the way, wether to take his advice, it's all up to you..he cant force you, if he did, you're not actually following his advice and wont attain the fruit he too attained.. if you dont want to follow his teachings, his teachings are just rubbish for you..anyone agree with me? so, hope your friend find can understand the truth of impermenance soon, then she can really find true happiness...
To David (must be he): Still got no idea how to intervent. She is not showing unhappy, but what she act, is showing that she is not in a normal situation compare to normal...
yup...siowqing is right..they dont want to face the truth that everything is impermenant... they think that no one is worse than them...then all those negative thoughts will come and suffering will follow, then when there is suffering, how can happiness come? show them the truth...not by talking(talking may work)...but also show it through yourself, show them that others can also live happily even if they "shi lian".. if she thinks being like that(abnormal) means she really loves that guy...ask her to go and die(hehe...sorry..no lah...)...hehe.. actually love is not supposed to be used like that... she treats her boyfriend as money..something she can use.. she wants him, not love him.. and wanting does not lead to happiness...
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失恋并没有什么值得同情的。都是成年人，爱就在一起，不爱了，不和了就一拍两散，干净利落。应该要懂得理智而稳重吧，否则哪有什么资格谈恋爱。
她痛，没啥好同情，因为是她允许自己痛的。
问题是我们是读心理科的，如果连我们本身或朋友自己无法解决自己的心理问题，应该如何去帮别人？
我是可惜，是痛心。
读心理科的你，应该会比较清楚：没有人能改变任何人，除了他自己。每个人对自己负起的都是完全的责任，他控制自己的一切思想和行为。我想，你只能告诉他的一句话是：一切由他自己决定，如果他要自己显得落魄颓废，他就会落魄颓废；要自己独立坚强，就会独立坚强。一切都是由他自己来决定的。
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feeling sorry（同情） is a very useless thing to do...
what you must do is help that someone...
like watching news..some ppl say watching news is good, let you know more, when you see ppl got burnt or killed..you say "oh...so poor"....then what do you do?just go and sleep and do nothing...?
yes...no one can change anyone, but we can help by caring for them, let them know that there's someone for them...
just like what buddha did, he didnt use his super powers or promise that you'll not suffer if you believe in him...
instead, he showed us the way, wether to take his advice, it's all up to you..he cant force you, if he did, you're not actually following his advice and wont attain the fruit he too attained..
if you dont want to follow his teachings, his teachings are just rubbish for you..anyone agree with me?
so, hope your friend find can understand the truth of impermenance soon, then she can really find true happiness...
回应萧姑娘：
我们真的无法完完全全去改变一个人。
可是至少要做一些东西让她明白，让她醒醒。
To David (must be he):
Still got no idea how to intervent. She is not showing unhappy, but what she act, is showing that she is not in a normal situation compare to normal...
是吗？
或者吧，大家对于这件事都有不同的看法。
我总是觉得，我们跟这些人说的话，他们其实也都懂的，不是吗？他们只是不去面对，这些道理其实他们都知道。
难道，道理要从别人口中说出，才是至理名言？
yup...siowqing is right..they dont want to face the truth that everything is impermenant...
they think that no one is worse than them...then all those negative thoughts will come and suffering will follow, then when there is suffering, how can happiness come?
show them the truth...not by talking(talking may work)...but also show it through yourself, show them that others can also live happily even if they "shi lian"..
if she thinks being like that(abnormal) means she really loves that guy...ask her to go and die(hehe...sorry..no lah...)...hehe..
actually love is not supposed to be used like that...
she treats her boyfriend as money..something she can use..
she wants him, not love him..
and wanting does not lead to happiness...
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